Students can use the Profile Publisher to mock up or draft online social networking profiles, yearbook profiles, and newspaper or magazine profiles for themselves, other real people (including historical figures), or fictional characters.

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RELATIONSHIP SKILLS VIA DBT SKILLS TRAINING

Getting along with people is essential for happiness and success. Sharing, avoiding name calling and taking turns are critical skills drilled into us from early ages. As we grow older, relationships grow more complicated, but the essential need for skills to manage them does not change.

If you have ever had your opinion ignored, consistently given of yourself without reciprocity or blown up after tolerating problems for too long you know that an inability to manage the demands of relationships is central to the amount of stress you experience.

Common Relationship Mistakes:

Too often we enter an interpersonal situation with pent up emotion and no clear idea of what we want to achieve. When you’re in emotional crisis, it’s easy to assume that those closest to you will understand your needs and respond to you. These are your family, friends and spouses. They are the people who know the most intimate details of your life. You may feel that you shouldn’t have to ask for what you need from them, but a failure to effectively communicate can lead to problems in getting your needs met.

On the other hand, if you’ve often had conflict in a relationship, you might assume that you simply don’t mesh with this person and that you will never get your needs met without struggle and stress. If you presume that the people closest to you should simply understand your needs and respond to your communication, whatever form it takes, then, unless you are naturally skilled with people, you are likely to run into conflict, misunderstanding, strained relationships and intense emotion.

In order to have our concerns and opinions taken seriously, keep good relationships and maintain your self-respect, you must have skills to interact with the people around you.

Relationship skills can help you to:

  1. Head off problems—Resolve problems and misunderstandings before they build up and become overwhelming.
  2. Strike Balance—negotiate with others to put off low priority demands, say no when you need to and ask for what you want and need.
  3. Create Competence—Interact in a way that makes you feel effective, rather than helpless. Stand up for yourself.

– Christy Matta, MA

Resilience: bounce back from disappointments and disasters.

According to the American Psychological Association, here are some ways to increase resilience:

Make connections. Good relationships with close family members, friends or others are important. Accepting help and support from those who care about you and will listen to you strengthens resilience. Some people find that being active in civic groups, faith-based organizations, or other local groups provides social support and can help with reclaiming hope. Assisting others in their time of need also can benefit the helper.

Avoid seeing crises as insurmountable problems. You can’t change the fact that highly stressful events happen, but you can change how you interpret and respond to these events. Try looking beyond the present to how future circumstances may be a little better. Note any subtle ways in which you might already feel somewhat better as you deal with difficult situations.

Accept that change is a part of living. Certain goals may no longer be attainable as a result of adverse situations. Accepting circumstances that cannot be changed can help you focus on circumstances that you can alter.

Move toward your goals. Develop some realistic goals. Do something regularly — even if it seems like a small accomplishment — that enables you to move toward your goals. Instead of focusing on tasks that seem unachievable, ask yourself, “What’s one thing I know I can accomplish today that helps me move in the direction I want to go?”

Take decisive actions. Act on adverse situations as much as you can. Take decisive actions, rather than detaching completely from problems and stresses and wishing they would just go away.

Look for opportunities for self-discovery. People often learn something about themselves and may find that they have grown in some respect as a result of their struggle with loss. Many people who have experienced tragedies and hardship have reported better relationships, a greater sense of strength even while feeling vulnerable, increased sense of self-worth, a more developed spirituality and heightened appreciation for life.

Nurture a positive view of yourself. Developing confidence in your ability to solve problems and trusting your instincts helps build resilience.

Keep things in perspective. Even when facing very painful events, try to consider the stressful situation in a broader context and keep a long-term perspective. Avoid blowing the event out of proportion.

Maintain a hopeful outlook. An optimistic outlook enables you to expect that good things will happen in your life. Try visualizing what you want, rather than worrying about what you fear.

Take care of yourself. Pay attention to your own needs and feelings. Engage in activities that you enjoy and find relaxing. Exercise regularly. Taking care of yourself helps to keep your mind and body primed to deal with situations that require resilience.

Additional ways of strengthening resilience may be helpful. For example, some people write about their deepest thoughts and feelings related to trauma or other stressful events in their life. Meditation and spiritual practices help some people build connections and restore hope.

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